Settle

The settler

She hurt her feelings.  Though she hurts feelings from time to time she wonders, why wasn't her heart checked?  How could this happen?  Holy Spirit!  Come on!  This is your job to halt the hurt before it hurts. 

Through a  few pointed questions, none-of-your-business questions, but wondering questions, she inadvertently unsettled the settled.  The space wasn't settled any longer.   Bellies were knotting, bodies were twitching, brains were agitating.  Tears were brimming.  And she didn't know.  She should have.  She should have paused to take a temperature.  

She used to feel the nudge of her husband, catch the glance of his eye, expect the save-the-day interruption.  She used to leave the entire conversation to him who somehow asked the same questions without unsettling any settles.  Feelings weren't hurt.  Relationships weren't ruffled.   He could ask a pointier, important, please-consider-this question, shrouded in a sense of love that actually settled the settle before it unsettled.   How did he do that?

She doesn't know.  Will never know.   But what she does know is... that... she is not him.  Cannot replace him.  Cannot even imitate him.  

So, she will learn a lesson, which is what she does, nearly everyday.   Learn lessons.  

Today's lesson:  

Aim to settle.